Comments on: Life At This Age http://idoitdigital.com/2007/11/14/life-at-this-age/ Video blogger | Father | Attention Whore Thu, 11 Mar 2010 17:19:16 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9 hourly 1 By: acydlord http://idoitdigital.com/2007/11/14/life-at-this-age/comment-page-1/#comment-22220 acydlord Tue, 20 Nov 2007 10:27:48 +0000 http://www.idoitdigital.com/2007/11/14/life-at-this-age/#comment-22220 It's the complete opposite for me, living the free and single life wondering what it would be like with a family. You've accomplished a lot and keep on pushing. I'm looking forward to what you do in the future man. It’s the complete opposite for me, living the free and single life wondering what it would be like with a family. You’ve accomplished a lot and keep on pushing. I’m looking forward to what you do in the future man.

]]> By: Rupert http://idoitdigital.com/2007/11/14/life-at-this-age/comment-page-1/#comment-22076 Rupert Fri, 16 Nov 2007 19:40:44 +0000 http://www.idoitdigital.com/2007/11/14/life-at-this-age/#comment-22076 Great post. I wanted to be 26 all through my early twenties. I don't know why. I read American Psycho, and the back cover said, "Patrick Bateman is 26, rich and handsome. By day, he works on Wall Street, earning a fortune. By night, he spends it in ways we cannot possibly imagine." And I thought that made 26 sound like a good age to be. So I spent years waiting to 'hit Bateman' (turn 26). I was 25 when I met Kate. We've been together for 8 years. So I guess I'm 33 now. But I still feel like Patrick Bateman. I mean, I still feel 26. I hear you on all this stuff. I miss college as well - I miss being able to do what i want when I want without any concern for anybody. But at least I had it once. And marriage / kids / commitment outweighs the single thing many times over, makes you richer, happier, on more levels. I'm lucky in that Kate's very supportive of whatever I want to do, so if I get some crazy bee in my bonnet that i want to do something new, she'll go with me on it - or let me go off and do it. Then it's about weighing up how I match what I want to do with the time I want to spend with them, which is so rewarding that the decisions become a lot tougher. I look at it all as a marathon to run, or a mountain to climb or a new continent to map. it's not the easier option, but it seems like the best one to choose, in terms of what you get back from it and how happy/fulfilled it makes you ;) I mean, you could be doing the metaphorical equivalent of sitting at home playing video games instead of doing it, but when your life flashes before your eyes as the Vogons disintegrate the Earth, what are you going to think was more worthwhile use of your time here? It's a massive investment in your own happiness, and not time wasted. Mostly though, I think I've come to realise that commitment and responsibility shouldn't mean you're not free to change, adapt, evolve constantly - as freely as if you were single. In fact, I think it can make you more able to change things because of the confidence and grounding you have. We're off to Canada next year, to try living there for a while and spend more time being creative. I'd never be able to make that decision by myself. It'd feel like I was leaving too much behind... Good god, I've written an essay. Thanks - you got me thinking. Great post.
I wanted to be 26 all through my early twenties. I don’t know why. I read American Psycho, and the back cover said, “Patrick Bateman is 26, rich and handsome. By day, he works on Wall Street, earning a fortune. By night, he spends it in ways we cannot possibly imagine.” And I thought that made 26 sound like a good age to be. So I spent years waiting to ‘hit Bateman’ (turn 26). I was 25 when I met Kate. We’ve been together for 8 years. So I guess I’m 33 now. But I still feel like Patrick Bateman. I mean, I still feel 26.
I hear you on all this stuff.
I miss college as well – I miss being able to do what i want when I want without any concern for anybody. But at least I had it once. And marriage / kids / commitment outweighs the single thing many times over, makes you richer, happier, on more levels.
I’m lucky in that Kate’s very supportive of whatever I want to do, so if I get some crazy bee in my bonnet that i want to do something new, she’ll go with me on it – or let me go off and do it. Then it’s about weighing up how I match what I want to do with the time I want to spend with them, which is so rewarding that the decisions become a lot tougher.
I look at it all as a marathon to run, or a mountain to climb or a new continent to map. it’s not the easier option, but it seems like the best one to choose, in terms of what you get back from it and how happy/fulfilled it makes you ;) I mean, you could be doing the metaphorical equivalent of sitting at home playing video games instead of doing it, but when your life flashes before your eyes as the Vogons disintegrate the Earth, what are you going to think was more worthwhile use of your time here? It’s a massive investment in your own happiness, and not time wasted.
Mostly though, I think I’ve come to realise that commitment and responsibility shouldn’t mean you’re not free to change, adapt, evolve constantly – as freely as if you were single. In fact, I think it can make you more able to change things because of the confidence and grounding you have. We’re off to Canada next year, to try living there for a while and spend more time being creative. I’d never be able to make that decision by myself. It’d feel like I was leaving too much behind…
Good god, I’ve written an essay. Thanks – you got me thinking.

]]> By: Simple Mindz http://idoitdigital.com/2007/11/14/life-at-this-age/comment-page-1/#comment-22032 Simple Mindz Thu, 15 Nov 2007 23:50:59 +0000 http://www.idoitdigital.com/2007/11/14/life-at-this-age/#comment-22032 I think it is awesome how far you have come at such a young age! keep up the good work!! LOL - I just love how you were "swaying" back and forth while holding your son... That is like so automatic to us parents! hold baby=sway... I think it is awesome how far you have come at such a young age! keep up the good work!!
LOL – I just love how you were “swaying” back and forth while holding your son… That is like so automatic to us parents! hold baby=sway…

]]> By: Clintus http://idoitdigital.com/2007/11/14/life-at-this-age/comment-page-1/#comment-22023 Clintus Thu, 15 Nov 2007 17:59:51 +0000 http://www.idoitdigital.com/2007/11/14/life-at-this-age/#comment-22023 Thanks everyone for the kind words. I didn't mean to sound like I was complaining. Thanks everyone for the kind words. I didn’t mean to sound like I was complaining.

]]> By: lolabella http://idoitdigital.com/2007/11/14/life-at-this-age/comment-page-1/#comment-22014 lolabella Thu, 15 Nov 2007 15:10:38 +0000 http://www.idoitdigital.com/2007/11/14/life-at-this-age/#comment-22014 i think that we all have the same feelings that you do from time to time. when i was your age, about 10 years ago, i had an infant and a 5-yr. old child, a degree, my own home, and a great job. great friends, good husband (yeah, fine, an "ok" husband), and security! great! but i did miss college, especially when the world seemed to pile up. even now, i ALWAYS want more. bigger. better. faster. i want freedom. a better, more prestigious, higher-paying job. to finish my phd. i want my big house to be finally built. another baby (usually only when i see bryce! ha!). and i STILL i miss the days of the frat parties and sexual freedom! you are going to have to resign yourself to the fact that no matter how much you've accomplished and how wonderful your life is, you will still desire BETTER for yourself. it will frustrate you at times, but i would much rather be reaching for more than settling for the status quo. oh - and you'll get your freedom when sierra can babysit bryce, and you can go hang out at the downtown (or wherever) bars again with your buds! it will come ... and it's wonderful to get that part of your life back! believe me! i think that we all have the same feelings that you do from time to time. when i was your age, about 10 years ago, i had an infant and a 5-yr. old child, a degree, my own home, and a great job. great friends, good husband (yeah, fine, an “ok” husband), and security! great! but i did miss college, especially when the world seemed to pile up.

even now, i ALWAYS want more. bigger. better. faster. i want freedom. a better, more prestigious, higher-paying job. to finish my phd. i want my big house to be finally built. another baby (usually only when i see bryce! ha!). and i STILL i miss the days of the frat parties and sexual freedom! you are going to have to resign yourself to the fact that no matter how much you’ve accomplished and how wonderful your life is, you will still desire BETTER for yourself.

it will frustrate you at times, but i would much rather be reaching for more than settling for the status quo.

oh – and you’ll get your freedom when sierra can babysit bryce, and you can go hang out at the downtown (or wherever) bars again with your buds! it will come … and it’s wonderful to get that part of your life back! believe me!

]]> By: natahlee http://idoitdigital.com/2007/11/14/life-at-this-age/comment-page-1/#comment-21990 natahlee Thu, 15 Nov 2007 05:45:27 +0000 http://www.idoitdigital.com/2007/11/14/life-at-this-age/#comment-21990 I've lived a lot in a short time too with no regrets. You have a beautiful family and the best part of it, you know it and you cherish it. Who cares what other people did or are doing at 26....its what YOU are doing in your life right now that matters. I’ve lived a lot in a short time too with no regrets. You have a beautiful family and the best part of it, you know it and you cherish it. Who cares what other people did or are doing at 26….its what YOU are doing in your life right now that matters.

]]> By: Ryan http://idoitdigital.com/2007/11/14/life-at-this-age/comment-page-1/#comment-21989 Ryan Thu, 15 Nov 2007 04:16:24 +0000 http://www.idoitdigital.com/2007/11/14/life-at-this-age/#comment-21989 Are you trying to give the poor guy heart burn - don't think about her in high school yet lol. Does your wife know you always talk so highly of her? She probably wouldn't think you're such a big dork if she knew you were complimenting her every 3 minutes ;) And ya, just be glad you aren't being a jackass drinking your 20s away. You're doing something with it. Are you trying to give the poor guy heart burn – don’t think about her in high school yet lol.

Does your wife know you always talk so highly of her? She probably wouldn’t think you’re such a big dork if she knew you were complimenting her every 3 minutes ;)

And ya, just be glad you aren’t being a jackass drinking your 20s away. You’re doing something with it.

]]> By: James http://idoitdigital.com/2007/11/14/life-at-this-age/comment-page-1/#comment-21974 James Thu, 15 Nov 2007 01:44:19 +0000 http://www.idoitdigital.com/2007/11/14/life-at-this-age/#comment-21974 Just imagine what else you can do in your life. Just imagine where technology and 'new media' will be. Wait till your kids get older. I have a 2 year old daughter and a 4 year old son. Think about your daughter in high school. :) Just imagine what else you can do in your life. Just imagine where technology and ‘new media’ will be. Wait till your kids get older. I have a 2 year old daughter and a 4 year old son. Think about your daughter in high school. :)

]]> By: Clintus http://idoitdigital.com/2007/11/14/life-at-this-age/comment-page-1/#comment-21958 Clintus Wed, 14 Nov 2007 21:22:31 +0000 http://www.idoitdigital.com/2007/11/14/life-at-this-age/#comment-21958 Life is good, no doubt about that. Life is good, no doubt about that.

]]> By: livejamie http://idoitdigital.com/2007/11/14/life-at-this-age/comment-page-1/#comment-21957 livejamie Wed, 14 Nov 2007 20:22:34 +0000 http://www.idoitdigital.com/2007/11/14/life-at-this-age/#comment-21957 you have a life that can be envied by anybody, don't worry or miss what you don't have brother :) you have a life that can be envied by anybody, don’t worry or miss what you don’t have brother :)

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